Love… love is a word that describes an emotion. It is a pleasant emotion which brings warmth in the hearts of man. It is a complicated emotion, for at the same time it is creating comfort and joy, it also creates a gap for sorrow and hate.
While love usually gives everyone something to smile about, we rarely stop to realize to see how wonderful we feel and how fortunate we truly are. If we would however, stop and think, I think the whole world would change a bit.
As I said, love truly is a very complicated emotion. When we have love, we begin as the happiest persons alive, our hearts are elevated and we truly feel as if we stood upon a cloud. However as time passes this feeling fades and we get used to being in love. We still feel happy enough, but we have long since stepped off the cloud. Now the state we are in at that time can be compared to the state of addiction. As long as we have the love we feel fine, however if we lose it we snap. The feeling of a heartbreak is probably among the worst feelings there is and can probably only be compared to the feeling a junky feels when he gets the drawback if he hasn’t had his “fix”. However, unlike drugs, love is not triggered by an outside drug but from our feelings, from our minds and thoughts. The reason… it is because we cling onto the memory of good times, the times we had love and realize that we now miss it. The feeling of dread however only lasts as long as we hold onto the memory of our loved one, but as soon as we let go, we go back to the staring point, before the feeling of love. We realize everything of course afterwards, as with all things, the reasons why everything happened, how things might have gone differently and so on and so on, always with that classic “if”, but as long as these thoughts are in our minds the dread feeling stays.
Now, there are endless explanations on why these things happen, scientifically. When we feel love the brain releases dopamine which causes us to feel good and when the love ends, the dopamine stops and we get drawbacks because of that particular neuron drug. But in real life, where we are thinking, we could not care less about the scientific explanations while we feel the pain, because that view doesn’t make it any easier, if anything it makes it more complicated and thus makes the pain worse. What everyone wants is to know how to change the bad feeling to good.
There are numerous ways to do so, some a good, some are bad, some work for you some people and not for others. For example, there are people who drown themselves in work or other similar things just to keep themselves busy, personally I’ve never looked at that as a solution, since what it really does is only delaying the problem till later to when you have to face it, and more often than not, when you have to face it, it is a lot harder that it ought to be.
Another thing you can do is to flip your emotions, that is turn all the love you used to have into hatred. It is much easier to get rid of an extreme feeling like hate than it is to get rid a slow feeling like sorrow, because the solution to anger is just to find the correct outlet and let go. However with that way, you must know that it means total cutoff from the one you used to love, although at the time you probably don’t care, but you might after some time when the anger has faded. Fate has a way of surprising us all.
Another way is the classical “rebound”. When you feel the worst you find someone to give you the “fix” of love you need. This usually means to have sex with someone. As tempting as that sounds it is in most cases a bad idea. Some of you may ask why… I’ll tell you. It is a bad idea because it usually leaves the “rebound” injured. As you yourself are only doing this to feel better the “rebound” may interpret your actions as real love towards them. This of course is not the case, you are not in love with the set person, although you may tell yourself that, in the end you realize that what I am saying is true. Of course I’m not saying that this is ALWAYS the case, but it is like that in most cases. However, if properly done with the right person, a “rebound” can be a good way. Having sex with someone is never something bad that is if the person you chose knows your reasons and is just out for a good time. That way no true feelings (except of course physical) are involved, no one gets hurt and everyone has a good time.

Now the best way to get over a broken heart is most likely to let time and thought take care of it. The thing here to do is to talk about how you feel to someone who is willing to listen and together figure out all the reasons why you feel bad, because if you know all the reasons, you don’t have to spend time questioning yourself and sink into a state of self-hatred because you think everything is your fault. No, by talking things through you save yourself weeks of agonizing self-doubt, then the thing to do is to hone your relationship with your friends and family to find some other state of happiness where you can be happy by yourself while time stitches up your broken heart with silver threads.
Love truly is the greatest happiness and the greatest pain in the world, but still remember this one thing, it is always worth it.

Speaking words of wisdom